How do I discipline my kids to teach them godly values?
Throughout my 25 years of parenting, I've learned how important it is to discipline kids and teach them values while they're young. Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says:
5 Steps to Disciplining Children
Raise Kids that Love God and Respect You
"And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up."
5 Steps to Disciplining Children
Raise Kids that Love God and Respect You
WORDS [Talk about it]
When your child is upset or disobedient, talk about it! Ask them what the problem is and get the whole picture. Don't make snap judgments.
When your child is upset or disobedient, talk about it! Ask them what the problem is and get the whole picture. Don't make snap judgments.
EVALUATE [Is your child's attitude wrong?]
If your child refuses to change you must evaluate further. Is he/she sick, tired, hungry, bored, hurt or willfully disobedient? Before you proceed with discipline take time to understand where your child is coming from. Is the disobedience stemming from a wrong attitude or another problem outside of the child's control?
If your child refuses to change you must evaluate further. Is he/she sick, tired, hungry, bored, hurt or willfully disobedient? Before you proceed with discipline take time to understand where your child is coming from. Is the disobedience stemming from a wrong attitude or another problem outside of the child's control?
DIRECTION [If your child is willfully disobeying]
If your child is being willfully disobedient remove them from the situation and talk about the situation in private. In love give them specific directions to change, following these guidelines:
If your child is being willfully disobedient remove them from the situation and talk about the situation in private. In love give them specific directions to change, following these guidelines:
- Look them in the eyes.
- Don't make outlandish threats.
(You will be left in the closet, no one will like you, I will never bring you here again, etc.) - Don't make it about yourself.
(You're embarassing me, I'm tired of this, etc.) - Make it about right choices - spirit, soul & body.
- Agree on discipline with your husband.
CORRECTION [Kids should understand that disobedience brings pain]
3 Reasons We Discipline Our Children:
3 Reasons We Discipline Our Children:
- Lying or stealing
- Direct disobedience
example: walking out into the street - it's dangerous - Bad Attitude
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Spanking - flat hand on the bottom (2-3 times)
- Do not yell at them or put them down.
- Do not hurt them.
- Do not allow them to control you.
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Love them! Hug them and tell them how much you believe in them.
LOVE [Teach them love for the house of God]
One of the best ways to show your child love and teach them godly values is to let God cultivate a love for His house within them. You can do this by making sure they never miss church, making Sunday a fun family day and serving together as a family.
Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV)--- "Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it."
One of the best ways to show your child love and teach them godly values is to let God cultivate a love for His house within them. You can do this by making sure they never miss church, making Sunday a fun family day and serving together as a family.
Proverbs 22:6 (NKJV)--- "Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it."